I stared at my phone, my thumb hovering over the “send” button. The message I had typed was sharp and biting, meant to hold the other person in their “place” after I was misjudged and had my integrity called into question.
My first instinct was to defend myself and strike back. But as I sat there, a still, small voice whispered to me: ” Is this really how GOd wants you to respond?”
I paused and slowly deleted the harsh message. Instead, I cried out to God in prayer for God to heal them of all of their hurts and insecurities. I prayed for wisdom to know when to speak and when to shut my mouth.
Proverbs 18:21 tells us, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” What a sobering thought!
Our words can either breathe life or bring destruction.
In moments of frustration or being hurt by others, our first instinct is often to lash out or defend ourselves, but those words-spoken in haste- have the power to tear down rather than build up.
Like my moment in a text message, we all have opportunities to choose how we respond when hurt or criticized.
The Bible makes it clear that we are called to use our words for good. In Ephesians 4:29, Paul writes, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.”
Our words should reflect the love of Christ, even when it is hard.
Consider the weight of your words. Have you been life-giving or have they sown the seeds of division and criticism? The reality is that we use our words to either heal or wound.
Here are a few practical ways we can build others up:
- Pause before responding-Take a moment to pray for wisdom.
- Choose encouragement over criticism-Speak life, even when it is difficult.
- Consider the other person’s perspective-Seek to understand before rushing to defend.
- Speak the truth in love-Correct with gentleness and respect when necessary.
Today, let’s make a commitment to being intentional with our words. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you as you navigate conversations, particularly when emotions run high. Choose words that reflect love, grace, and encouragement.
Let’s remember that we have the power to build others up, even in difficult circumstances.
Lord, guard my lips and guide my words. Help me to speak with grace, even in difficult moments. May my speech always build others up and bring glory to Your name. In Jesus’ name, amen.